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THE PROMISES AND PERILS OF ‘NO RESCUE PARENTING’

The fears and the aspirations of a parent and the inexperienced fumbling of a child result in a helicopter parent taking charge.Slide3

But meet the newbie in the town- The ‘No Rescue Parenting.’Slide2As the name suggests, these parents do not come to the rescue of their children every now and then. Rather, they are not apprehensive of the failed attempts and allow their children to truly experience disappointments and achievements, success and failure. They take a backseat and let the child be at the helm of his or her affairs. This can rightly be called as the learning with chills and thrills of experience. This will empower the child and will inculcate decision-making power in him or her. It will also introduce a new quality in the children of no rescue parents – one that enables them to effectively organize their affairs and take charge of them.

All of us as parents need a little shove to start focusing on the bigger picture. Yes, we don’t have to be totally indifferent ruthless per se but we must surely let the younger ones take charge. We just have to admit that they will gradually learn and can eventually do just as well without us. And anyways, we will always be there to guide, support and motivate them so that they make the right choices. Hence, stop just raising your kids start empowering them.Slide4

No rescue parents play a big part in helping their children in framing their questions properly and help them understand that considering a plethora of options before reaching a conclusion is necessary. The future of the next generation depends on the hunger and willingness to take the risk.

I am sure many of the parents will not find this concept appropriate or suitable for them. Perhaps having grown up in different and more prevalent style of parenting they cannot even think of considering such a seemingly absurd new concept but they must  broaden their horizons to truly see that this new style of parenting will ensure that their children are the ‘fittest’ in this race of ‘survival of the fittest.’

So let’s do the right thing now! Happy parenting!!output_soInuc

The Daily Prompt

Unequal Terms

Did you know today is Blog Action Day? Join bloggers from around the world and write a post about what inequality means to you. Have you ever encountered it in your daily life?

As I ponder about inequality, first and foremost thought that comes to my mind is inequality between rich and poor. Undoubtedly, it is omnipresent. All the time, I have to force down this reality down the throat. Though I feel helpless and miserable. But, alone, I cannot do anything.

On one hand, there is  plenty for the rich. They revel in luxury from stylish boutique, fine dining, branded possessions to gourmet food. The poor cannot even dream of it or I would rather add, they do not even know if these exist.

On the other hand, the poor are struggling to make both their ends meet. One day they thrive and maybe  strive the very next day. They do not have a moment to uncurl their overworked, overstressed and overburdened spine.

Alone I cannot do anything.  I am sure, together, we can build a better place for everyone to live. I hope Blog Action Day is a propitious day for this.

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5 Shades of Lo♥e

 

heartWhat is Love:

  • Love is not only an emotion, but also a sentiment, concern or feeling which
  • varies in intensity depending on the type of the relationship and circumstances

 

What is a Language:

  • It is a means of communication of  thoughts, feelings, sentiments and  emotions
  • By way  of  formalized  symbols,  signs, sounds and gestures etc.

 

Great, now we are familiar with  –

What is love?

Also, what is a language?

Undoubtedly, communication is  the most fundamental skill. But it is also the most challenging. The key to doing it effectively is to decide which means of communication  you should ideally use.

When it comes to love, do we really know, how to express our love? Have you been struggling to express naturally when it comes to love? The answers to these questions  are yes. Yes, we all do. We use trial and error in an attempt to develop a worthwhile bond. The relationship slips by unnoticed as we lament, regret and apologize  leaving behind a trail of what-ifs. But wait, pointless  fretting about this is not going to help. 

Life just goes on. Ups and downs are part and parcel of life. There is no need to worry so much. Five shades of love can come handy to avoid landing in the similar situation.  Absolutely the eternal way to  love and be loved.   I am talking about and is sharing  5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman.

 

They are:

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♥ WORDS OF AFFIRMATION

 

Words mean a lot to these people. Words of appreciation, encouraging words and compliments to name a few do wonders.

I love you!!♥

Take care!! ♥

Do you say these words to your family members to show love?

Do you expect these words from your family members?

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  • Mean words and criticism may leave them traumatized.

 

 ♥ ♥ ACTS OF SERVICE

 

Action speaks louder than words to these people. Acts of service like helping with household chores, sharing  responsibilities do  wonders.

How do  you feel, when your mommy help in doing  homework? Do you feel loved?

When your husband said,” Honey, shall I lay table for you?” What was your expression?

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  • Laziness, not fulfilling commitment may hurt their feelings.

 

 ♥ ♥ ♥ RECEIVING GIFTS

 

These people feel the love on receiving gifts. Oh dear, we all do. Right! This should not  be confused with materialism. It is the  thought and effort that counts.

A birthday gift!♥

Gift for performing well in the exams!♥

Gift for good behavior!♥

When was the last time you gave a gift to your dad?

What was his first reaction?

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  • Forgetting special dates may upset them.

 

♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ PHYSICAL TOUCH

 

Appropriate physical touch is how these people feel loved. Remember, there is a fine line between appropriate and inappropriate touch depending upon the  circumstances and relationship. It does not always come to  sex.

Hug!♥

Kiss!♥

Holding hands!♥

How did you feel when your mommy patted on your back today?

Did you give her a hug today?

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♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ ♥ QUALITY TIME

 

Spending quality time works for these people. Quality not quantity time and giving undivided attention does wonders.

Play games together!♥

Going out  to eat!♥

Going for a vacation!♥

What do you think,  can your screen time  be labeled as quality time at home?

Can watching movie together  be called as spending quality time?

 

Now, let’s  go- back- to – basics  of  love. Love is always about someone else. Hence,  it becomes pertinent that if  I wish someone to feel the love I am trying to bestow, I must confer it in his or her  primary love language.

Well, it is worth mentioning that different people have different primary love language. Most importantly, everyone tends to exhibit one dominant love language. Usually,  we show and expect love in our own primary love language. Really?  

Thank you so much for reading! Hoping that things would take off blissfully.  My primary love language is – Acts of Service ☺! What’s  yours? Share it with me to spread your love ♥. You can find it here http://www.5lovelanguages.com/.

 

 

The Daily Prompt

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Gone are the days when people interacted with each other face to face. Due to the explosion of social media, things move  differently. These days  most of us like to be wired all the time. It is aptly called wired world. A wire here and  a wire there:  in  the ears, of  the charger and around the desktop. Everyone is peeping through the wire. It is quite sad.

A few days back, I was reading about how slowly, slowly,  bedtime storytelling has become a thing of the past. Honestly, I never slept without one. It is worrysome and heartbreaking. It is a world of e-books and audio books. But, I strongly believe that it  should make a comeback that too with a bang. It is not just a matter of storytelling, there is a  lot more to it. Whether it’s an audio book or a parent narrating a story,  story is  just the same. Surely not  the emotions, my friend. Having said that one question comes to my mind immediately, am I prepared and willing  to uncoil.

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The Daily Post

One-Way Street

Congrats! You’re the owner of a new time machine. The catch? It comes in two models, each traveling one way only: the past OR the future. Which do you choose, and why?

I will not think twice and will definitely prefer ‘The catch’ traveling in the past to take a trip down memory lane.  Actually, in this fast paced, multitasking world, where is the time to sit back to reflect and recollect. Where is the time to  celebrate the glory of those good old days? Being an opportunist, I would happily own ‘The catch’. I could not ask for more, yeah, It’s one way only.

This rewinding of  the clock  will reflect  my  journey of   life. I will recall: who inspired me during  trials and tribulations? Who infused   love and confidence in me?  Further, it may manifest in my present as well, as they say, smart  people learn from their own mistakes.

I am apprehensive about  exploring the future as I do not  yearn for what it holds for me. May be it  will mess up my present too. I would rather believe in having a vision about the future.

Come and join my smooth and bumpy ride, if you wish to  know more about me. Just remember to catch ‘The catch’.

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