Honey, I need ‘worry breaks’
After the usual long, exhausting day, there is nothing quite like reading a great book by none other than Robin Sharma. As I was reading, I came across the term ‘worry breaks.’
The idea of worry breaks sounds like the perfect escape from the constant worry, but its application and practicality left me a little dubious. Does it really work? Can I really do it? But then I thought that we do worry all day long. We worry about our relationships, we worry about our kids and their studies, their jobs, our dreams and our aspirations. The list is endless. We are trapped in the vicious circle of fretting, worrying and feeling agonized. In this fast paced worrysome world, we have lost the time to sit back, relax, laugh and enjoy.
This essentially means limiting our ‘worry time’ to perhaps 30 minutes an evening or an hour a day. In this scheduled worry session, we may feel exasperated just thinking about the senseless delays or be overcome with annoyance, but it’s important to remember that once this period ends, we must stop. We must stop worrying, train ourselves to leave our worries in the past and engage ourselves in something productive – maybe cook a fantastic meal or just have a meaningful conversation with the ones we love. If we feel worried or anxious during any other times of our day, we must jot it down and fret over it during our next worry break!
This may sound a little absurd at first, but we must admit, we’ve lost ourselves. We’ve lost ourselves in this spiral of constant distress and fretting over things that don’t matter. It’s about time we pause and reflect. We need to take worry breaks. We need to unplug from the chaos and reconnect.
Worry or ‘worry breaks’- The choice is yours.
When I started writing about love. I was wondering as to what exactly is love? In this case, the conundrum is how to put this into words. Then I got this realization, the love is something, I expect from my family and friends all the time. Similarly my family and friends expect it from me too. But the question remains the same- what is that? It is neither a thing with a price tag nor a thing to wear. Neither a place where I can go and soak myself nor a thing to eat and taste. Then what is it? I thought of googling about it like a whole lot of other things. It was a real zinger. But indeed an echt. I was surprised to note, “What is love” was the most searched phrase on the Google in 2012.
Are you also not startled? A simple word which we feel and bestow every single moment is so difficult to put into the words.
The answer still remains elusive partly because it is not always alike. It manifests in different ways like love for parents, children, friends, pets, country and god to name a few.
Indeed, love is an emotion, sentiment, concern or feeling. It varies in intensity depending on the type of relationship and circumstances. Nevertheless, all love is a kind of passionate commitment that we develop and nurture over a period of time. It is undoubtedly an experience and has contributed to promote, sustain and maintain long term relationships and to foster a feeling of safety and security. It definitely is a means of survival. It is the lifeline of social order.
Love is the greatest blessing of life. Showing love and affection is an absolutely necessary for positive physical, mental, emotional, and social development of a child. Young children discover, develop, nurture, and progress rapidly when they receive love and affection along with attention, encouragement, mental stimulation, nutritious meals and good health care. It is the most important thing you can provide to your child beyond meeting his or her basic human needs.
The scientific studies have reaffirmed as to how important it is to show love and shower the people you love with the love. A study from UCLA suggested that a loving parental figure may alter neural circuits in the children that could influence the health throughout a lifespan. On the flip side, the negative impact of the childhood abuse or lack of the parental affection may take a mental and physical toll that can also last a lifetime. The childhood neglect increases the risk for the adult morbidity and mortality.
A research has proposed a link between a larger hippocampus and a better memory. The brain images have revealed that a mother’s love physically affects the volume of her child’s hippocampus. In the study, the children of nurturing mothers had hippocampus volumes 10 percent larger than the children whose mothers were not as nurturing.
In our rapidly transforming globalised multitasking society where due to the explosion of the social media face to face human interaction is declining, one generation full of deeply loving parents would change the brain of the next generation and with that, the world- this approach will reflect the zeitgeist of a nimble society.
So darling!! wear your heart on your sleeve, show your love – for what matters, for whom matters and when it matters. It is rightly said: “Love begets love.”
I know, I know………… that famous grin was wider than usual. Something humorous …..no, no just typical. But, totally true and truthful. I am sure, you will be beaming with joy reminiscing about “you are here” shortly.